Mama's first week as a solo stay-at-home Mom is in the books. Whew!! Highlights of the week include the infamous visit to the pediatrician, story-time at the library, the pre-school interview circuit and welcomed visits from family and friends. Breakfast is no sooner over than Matthew is lobbying to pile into the Jeep to get out and about. Thomas goes with the flow, for the most part, as long as it doesn't cut into his nap time.
The transformation of Chris' cave into a playroom has been a great help in giving the boys a place of their own to throw their toys around in. We look forward to being able to spend more time outside. Hopefully, Spring is not too far away.
Overall, the boys are doing great. Matthew counts to 10 (although he usually skips the "8") and is up to G in the alphabet. When I asked him to show me a number in one of their books tonight, he pointed and said "this one". Yes, he said that in English. Thomas can sing most of "Twinkle, Twinkle" by himself. They really are little sponges.
Friday, February 29, 2008
Thursday, February 28, 2008
What a Week!
There were many new adventures and introductions this week. The boys met their Aunt Nora and Uncle Bill along with cousins Gina, Anthony and Vincent. It went quite well.
Then they met Uncle Tim and Aunts Susan and Cindy along with cousins Meghan and Kaitlin. Another great time had by all!
Chris' "cave" went a long way to becoming a playroom, just a few touches still needed. That Chris is such a giver.
Matthew made his first run to Home Depot and was very excited by the hex bolts and wood screws as well as the gardening section. He's a good little shopper.
Wednesday was big. In the morning we checked out St. Brigid School for the pre-K and 3 year old programs. It's very convenient which is good since the military boarding pre-school programs are all full. In the afternoon we went to the pediatrician who dubbed Matthew and Thomas "fantastic". This visit was lively. Thomas fell and cut his lip in the waiting room while we were alone. When he was in full blown bleeding screaming and rolling on the floor mode, he had a full room and we could proudly say, "That one is ours."
It's all good times and precious moments.
Then they met Uncle Tim and Aunts Susan and Cindy along with cousins Meghan and Kaitlin. Another great time had by all!
Chris' "cave" went a long way to becoming a playroom, just a few touches still needed. That Chris is such a giver.
Matthew made his first run to Home Depot and was very excited by the hex bolts and wood screws as well as the gardening section. He's a good little shopper.
Wednesday was big. In the morning we checked out St. Brigid School for the pre-K and 3 year old programs. It's very convenient which is good since the military boarding pre-school programs are all full. In the afternoon we went to the pediatrician who dubbed Matthew and Thomas "fantastic". This visit was lively. Thomas fell and cut his lip in the waiting room while we were alone. When he was in full blown bleeding screaming and rolling on the floor mode, he had a full room and we could proudly say, "That one is ours."
It's all good times and precious moments.
Friday, February 22, 2008
Let it Snow
With the wintery weather today, a planned visit by the boys' cousins, the Magi family, had to be postponed. We were all very disappointed. We returned, instead, to our typical routine of eat, play, clean up, repeat. There were a couple of melt-downs during the day, but the boys did take naps, which provided a nice breather for the original members of the household. Thomas was the subject of an intervention regarding potty vs. pull-ups, and we are hopeful that he will be able to make some progress in that area.
We all got bundled up and headed out to the yard to play in the snow and get some fresh air. Afternoons seem to be the time when we all start pushing each others buttons, so the change of scene did us all a lot of good. Coming in to cookies and cocoa was a treat, too.
We've mentioned the language barrier a number of times. Although it's difficult, we do our best with a combination of verbal and sign languages, and a few of our own made-up words. For example, "apple" is "yablaka" (sp?) in Ukrainian, so we've taken to calling them "yapples". In addition, we are on a mission to find programs for the boys to enroll in (Pre-K, nursery school) that will provide them with socialization and exposure to English-speaking peers.
I jumped at the opportunity tonight to go out and shovel the front and back walks and deck. It was the first "me" time I've had since getting home last Saturday. We are coming up on one week being home together. As you know, it's been a mixture of the good, the bad and the ugly. It will be interesting to see how things are looking a week from now. Thanks again SO much for the support, prayers and advice. Please stay tuned.
We all got bundled up and headed out to the yard to play in the snow and get some fresh air. Afternoons seem to be the time when we all start pushing each others buttons, so the change of scene did us all a lot of good. Coming in to cookies and cocoa was a treat, too.
We've mentioned the language barrier a number of times. Although it's difficult, we do our best with a combination of verbal and sign languages, and a few of our own made-up words. For example, "apple" is "yablaka" (sp?) in Ukrainian, so we've taken to calling them "yapples". In addition, we are on a mission to find programs for the boys to enroll in (Pre-K, nursery school) that will provide them with socialization and exposure to English-speaking peers.
I jumped at the opportunity tonight to go out and shovel the front and back walks and deck. It was the first "me" time I've had since getting home last Saturday. We are coming up on one week being home together. As you know, it's been a mixture of the good, the bad and the ugly. It will be interesting to see how things are looking a week from now. Thanks again SO much for the support, prayers and advice. Please stay tuned.
Are We Having Fun Yet?
Who would have thought that it is more difficult to post from home than from Ukraine?!
The boys are like fish in a tank - they're always on the move, but the only discernable focus is while they eat. They don't play with each other. Besides some old cellphones, they won't play with toys, read books, work on ABC's or count, won't watch TV (savages) and don't seem to like being outside. It is exhausting.
Just to heap on, the boys fight naptime and bedtime, and don't sleep through the night.
We have Amazon sending in books to help us make sense of it all, but the language is huge.
On a brighter note, the neighbors across the street have lit their Christmas lights and that has been a source of enjoyment. Also, we have neighbors two doors down with boys 3&5 so there are playmates.
Our tips to the store have been interesting. Matthew thinks everything is free and is ours, while Thomas just likes to throw fits and lay on the floor.
Week 1 is almost in the books...
The boys are like fish in a tank - they're always on the move, but the only discernable focus is while they eat. They don't play with each other. Besides some old cellphones, they won't play with toys, read books, work on ABC's or count, won't watch TV (savages) and don't seem to like being outside. It is exhausting.
Just to heap on, the boys fight naptime and bedtime, and don't sleep through the night.
We have Amazon sending in books to help us make sense of it all, but the language is huge.
On a brighter note, the neighbors across the street have lit their Christmas lights and that has been a source of enjoyment. Also, we have neighbors two doors down with boys 3&5 so there are playmates.
Our tips to the store have been interesting. Matthew thinks everything is free and is ours, while Thomas just likes to throw fits and lay on the floor.
Week 1 is almost in the books...
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
First Blood
Well this one's a bit of a surprise. At 5:30 this morning Chris found Thomas trying to brush his teeth. To encourage the little scamp to stay in bed he thought it would be good to go back to bed with him. 30 seconds and a vicious (though presumably unintentional) headbutt later Chris' nose exploded in blood. Don't worry, Thomas' head is fine...for now.
Thomas was wondering earlier at about 2:30 but got back to sleep pretty readily, though the same can not be said for Ellen.
Thomas was wondering earlier at about 2:30 but got back to sleep pretty readily, though the same can not be said for Ellen.
Monday, February 18, 2008
Home, The Journey Begins Anew
Sorry for going dark, it's been quite difficult. We arrived home at about 7:30 Saturday night. the boys slept in the car. At 1:40 AM Ellen found Thomas downstairs, with the lights on, rifling through luggage. The day began with 2 hours sleep after being up nearly 24. Papa got up but managed another two hours before getting up for good. Basically, they just wanted to run around and pull down everything within reach.
Another interesting aspect is they are obnoxious about wanting to eat ALL THE TIME. They will just park at the kitchen table and demand food. If we gave them what they want, they would in all honesty eat about twice as much as any adult - and that's exactly what they had done on the trip home. Sunday was truly a horrible day. The bright spot was a trip to target, where I brought merchandise to the cashier who: asked how I was, rang the items, put them in a plastic bag, made change without trying to shame me into giving exact change, didn't throw the receipt at me, and said "thank you". This simple event brought me back to America as much, or more, than the flight had. Never take for granted what we have here in the USA. Always appreciate our nation's blessings and be prudent stewards of our resources.
Monday, the woke up at 2:40 am and were sent back to their room and made to keep the light off. they got up for good at 5:30. Monday was much better as they are starting to settle down and are even cute. We took the to Target, and they were fabulous. It was wierd taking our two children, in booster seats, to Target in our station wagon.
Lucy remains traumatized which does not bode well for the boys. They will have to change their ways or start bringing in revenue if they wish to continue indoor living.
While we have returned to the address we had departed from 4 weeks (to the day) earlier, it is very clear the real journey is just beginning. Kelly World isn't shutting down just yet.
Another interesting aspect is they are obnoxious about wanting to eat ALL THE TIME. They will just park at the kitchen table and demand food. If we gave them what they want, they would in all honesty eat about twice as much as any adult - and that's exactly what they had done on the trip home. Sunday was truly a horrible day. The bright spot was a trip to target, where I brought merchandise to the cashier who: asked how I was, rang the items, put them in a plastic bag, made change without trying to shame me into giving exact change, didn't throw the receipt at me, and said "thank you". This simple event brought me back to America as much, or more, than the flight had. Never take for granted what we have here in the USA. Always appreciate our nation's blessings and be prudent stewards of our resources.
Monday, the woke up at 2:40 am and were sent back to their room and made to keep the light off. they got up for good at 5:30. Monday was much better as they are starting to settle down and are even cute. We took the to Target, and they were fabulous. It was wierd taking our two children, in booster seats, to Target in our station wagon.
Lucy remains traumatized which does not bode well for the boys. They will have to change their ways or start bringing in revenue if they wish to continue indoor living.
While we have returned to the address we had departed from 4 weeks (to the day) earlier, it is very clear the real journey is just beginning. Kelly World isn't shutting down just yet.
It's All a Blur
The last known photo of the Kelly boys in Ukraine. The man is Nicholai, a very nice driver who brought us around to the embassy and airport in Kyiv.
Thomas seems unfazed by his new home, while Matthew decides to leave him and explore. It's OK, thomas was up for good just a couple hours later.
Mama and Matthew.
This was precious. Day 1 we took the boys outside to burn some energy and so they could stop breaking things. The Ukrainians wanted to go inside because it was "too cold". They may have been called disparaging names by the unnamed photographer.
Thomas seems unfazed by his new home, while Matthew decides to leave him and explore. It's OK, thomas was up for good just a couple hours later.
Mama and Matthew.
This was precious. Day 1 we took the boys outside to burn some energy and so they could stop breaking things. The Ukrainians wanted to go inside because it was "too cold". They may have been called disparaging names by the unnamed photographer.
Independence Day Photos
Svetlana. We're pretty sure she's the number 2 person at the orphanage.
Abunch of the caregivers with the boys just before they busted out. They've go their escape togs on.
Abunch of the caregivers with the boys just before they busted out. They've go their escape togs on.
Saturday, February 16, 2008
HOME!!!!!
The best word of all - HOME!
The trip home seemed longer than the previous four weeks. Thomas won the award as the worst child this frequent traveler has ever witnessed on an airplane. The 10.5 hrs broke down to 1 hour charming childish, 1 hour sleeping, 3 hours of loud noises/shrieking, and 5 hours of tantrum. Matthew was no angel.
The flight was completely sold out and the vast majority of passengers were Ukrainian. There was a woman in front of us whose seat got kicked often and the tray table banged often etc, who when we were de-planing, turned to us and in a thick accent told us in English that we were doing a wonderful thing by adopting brothers (she must have overheard a conversation with a Ukrainian flight attendant who was enamoured with the boys), she deemed us to be good people, she wished us strength, and said she must kiss each of us which se did. Yes, we had tears.
The arrival at home was amazing as anonymous gnomes had been at work. The outside lights were ablaze, the US flag was flying, thre kitchen stocked, toys had appeared, and the boys bedroom had been furnished and fully prepared. It was all so overwhelming. Of course, Thomas was asleep and missed the grandeur, which Matthew may or may not have seen as he was just waking up from the car. We are blown away by the preparations made in our absence.
Mel, 12 yr. old, 19 lb. cat was about and let matthew pet him, and Lucy (14 yrs) made an appearance, then hid. Inappropriate urination is sure to follow in the coming weeks/months.
More to follow...
The trip home seemed longer than the previous four weeks. Thomas won the award as the worst child this frequent traveler has ever witnessed on an airplane. The 10.5 hrs broke down to 1 hour charming childish, 1 hour sleeping, 3 hours of loud noises/shrieking, and 5 hours of tantrum. Matthew was no angel.
The flight was completely sold out and the vast majority of passengers were Ukrainian. There was a woman in front of us whose seat got kicked often and the tray table banged often etc, who when we were de-planing, turned to us and in a thick accent told us in English that we were doing a wonderful thing by adopting brothers (she must have overheard a conversation with a Ukrainian flight attendant who was enamoured with the boys), she deemed us to be good people, she wished us strength, and said she must kiss each of us which se did. Yes, we had tears.
The arrival at home was amazing as anonymous gnomes had been at work. The outside lights were ablaze, the US flag was flying, thre kitchen stocked, toys had appeared, and the boys bedroom had been furnished and fully prepared. It was all so overwhelming. Of course, Thomas was asleep and missed the grandeur, which Matthew may or may not have seen as he was just waking up from the car. We are blown away by the preparations made in our absence.
Mel, 12 yr. old, 19 lb. cat was about and let matthew pet him, and Lucy (14 yrs) made an appearance, then hid. Inappropriate urination is sure to follow in the coming weeks/months.
More to follow...
Friday, February 15, 2008
Approaching the Ukrainian Finish Line
After two hours at the embassy, the visas have been issued! God willing, we'll get to JFK tomorrow, and Matthew and Thomas Kelly will be US Citizens upon touching down!
It will be a very long day, and Matthew is very excited as tomorrow promises both Amelika (still working on "r") and a banana. Thomas is Thomas.
You know, with enough duct tape and a broom closet, this parenting thing ain't so hard.
We can't stress enough that there is no way we could have made it this far without the prayers and support of so many people and ALL of the posted comments and e-mails.
We look forward to an uneventful flight and catching up with everyone very soon. God bless you all.
It will be a very long day, and Matthew is very excited as tomorrow promises both Amelika (still working on "r") and a banana. Thomas is Thomas.
You know, with enough duct tape and a broom closet, this parenting thing ain't so hard.
We can't stress enough that there is no way we could have made it this far without the prayers and support of so many people and ALL of the posted comments and e-mails.
We look forward to an uneventful flight and catching up with everyone very soon. God bless you all.
Morning Musing
Everyone got a good night sleep! There are two of us who are "morning people". We'll give you one hint - their combined age is eight.
Yesterday we spent time at the American clinic and the boys got checked out. The Ukrainian doctor was awesome. She said that the boys' high level of activity is an excellent sign. Matthew had a chest x-ray because "tuberculosis infection" was in his file. The x-ray was clear, but he has a heart murmur that will require further investigation.
The embassy was all about tight security, paperwork, and payment in new uncirculated dollars. When Matthew showed interest in Old Glory we said "America". He saw 4 more flags and pointed and shouted "Amelika!" We're working on "R" sounds.
Thomas sat in the hall amusing everyone who understands the language. We can't wait until he starts English.
We go back to the embassy this afternoon for an immigration interview and hopefully pick up their visas.
We want to get home so badly, that just being at the embassy where our flag flies feels great.
Yesterday we spent time at the American clinic and the boys got checked out. The Ukrainian doctor was awesome. She said that the boys' high level of activity is an excellent sign. Matthew had a chest x-ray because "tuberculosis infection" was in his file. The x-ray was clear, but he has a heart murmur that will require further investigation.
The embassy was all about tight security, paperwork, and payment in new uncirculated dollars. When Matthew showed interest in Old Glory we said "America". He saw 4 more flags and pointed and shouted "Amelika!" We're working on "R" sounds.
Thomas sat in the hall amusing everyone who understands the language. We can't wait until he starts English.
We go back to the embassy this afternoon for an immigration interview and hopefully pick up their visas.
We want to get home so badly, that just being at the embassy where our flag flies feels great.
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Happy Valentine's Day
We've gotten some very timely comments today and yesterday. Thank you all.
We had been told to maintain Matthew and Thomas' normal schedule which included naps - anyone want to guess what's coming? In a word "fiasco".
Anyhow they say that God only gives us what we can handle. They're good boys but the language barrier is difficult and thus far they really haven't needed English.
We are all out of our element hear in Kyiv and just want to be home. We're in a bizarre apartment in Kyiv complete with grafitti and urine in the stairwell. We had macaroni with spicy ketchup for dinner. It was a hit.
Tomorrow we'll tell you about the embassy (America!) and the American Clinic. The boys were fabulous at both, and we go back to the embassy tomorrow afternoon.
Well, we can't get an internet connection here that will allow us to put up pictures, so please be understanding.
We had been told to maintain Matthew and Thomas' normal schedule which included naps - anyone want to guess what's coming? In a word "fiasco".
Anyhow they say that God only gives us what we can handle. They're good boys but the language barrier is difficult and thus far they really haven't needed English.
We are all out of our element hear in Kyiv and just want to be home. We're in a bizarre apartment in Kyiv complete with grafitti and urine in the stairwell. We had macaroni with spicy ketchup for dinner. It was a hit.
Tomorrow we'll tell you about the embassy (America!) and the American Clinic. The boys were fabulous at both, and we go back to the embassy tomorrow afternoon.
Well, we can't get an internet connection here that will allow us to put up pictures, so please be understanding.
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
Khmelnytskyi We Miss thee
It's been an exciting day. We bought last minute gifts for the orphanage, packed and sprung the boys! The ride to Kyiv went well and the boys were better than we could have hoped.
Then we got to the apartment. Thomas promptly threw a fit and laid down in the dirty wet parking lot - in his brand new never before worn clothes. After a number of other in apartment adventures we got the boys to bed at 8:15 which isn't bad since at the joint it was 8:00. Well at 11:20 Matthew is still up and Thomas only got quiet 5 minutes ago. The word "nightmare" comes to mind.
It will be interesting to see how they rebound tomorrow.
Then we got to the apartment. Thomas promptly threw a fit and laid down in the dirty wet parking lot - in his brand new never before worn clothes. After a number of other in apartment adventures we got the boys to bed at 8:15 which isn't bad since at the joint it was 8:00. Well at 11:20 Matthew is still up and Thomas only got quiet 5 minutes ago. The word "nightmare" comes to mind.
It will be interesting to see how they rebound tomorrow.
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Our Last Night in Khmelnytskyi
We bust the boys out of the orphanage tomorrow at about 12:15 pm, which is 5:15 am EST. From there we head to Kyiv and should arrive around 5:00 pm. We don't think they've ever been in a car this long, so it will be interesting seeing how they travel. tomorrow night will also be their first night away from the orphange in almost 3 years.
Matthew is very excited about the trip, and outside today we pointed out a con-trail from a jet and told him it was an airplane. It was he who pointed out the next con-trail to us.
Last night, Chris felt like a cold was coming on. This morning he felt bad and it was 50/50 if he'd make it through the day. Outside and at the orphange, things were OK. We are hopeful it is an allergy and is unrelated to the bird flu outbreak south of here.
It was the second consecutive sunny day - unprecedented. The locals say this city is much nicer in the summertime with lots of green and many flowers in bloom. We believe them. It would be nice to visit here again.
Matthew is very excited about the trip, and outside today we pointed out a con-trail from a jet and told him it was an airplane. It was he who pointed out the next con-trail to us.
Last night, Chris felt like a cold was coming on. This morning he felt bad and it was 50/50 if he'd make it through the day. Outside and at the orphange, things were OK. We are hopeful it is an allergy and is unrelated to the bird flu outbreak south of here.
It was the second consecutive sunny day - unprecedented. The locals say this city is much nicer in the summertime with lots of green and many flowers in bloom. We believe them. It would be nice to visit here again.
Around and About
This is the waiter at LeMon that we had most often, and yes, we have eaten lunch there every day.
This dapper fellow works at the orphanage, and Matthew is very fond of him. Likewise, he is very fond of Matthew. Though he speaks no English, we were able to understand he has watched the boys grow over their years in the orphanage. He is excited they will travel to America, but he will miss them. The fellow on the right is an unidentified passerby.
Matthew and two of the caregivers who work in Thomas' group. Thomas refused to sit for this photograph.
This dapper fellow works at the orphanage, and Matthew is very fond of him. Likewise, he is very fond of Matthew. Though he speaks no English, we were able to understand he has watched the boys grow over their years in the orphanage. He is excited they will travel to America, but he will miss them. The fellow on the right is an unidentified passerby.
Matthew and two of the caregivers who work in Thomas' group. Thomas refused to sit for this photograph.
Either the elevators are smaller here, or we are giants. This dapper fellow is touching three sides of the elevator. Coincidentally, these are Otis elevators (maybe his originals) for you UTC folks looking for an excuse to take a business trip to Khmelnytskyi.
Here the boys relax and eat with the local diva who has a one word name - Ivanka.
Here the boys relax and eat with the local diva who has a one word name - Ivanka. 
Monday, February 11, 2008
Start Your Engines
The sun was out for nearly the entire day! This was the first truly sunny day in the three plus weeks we've been here. It's also the first glimpse of any sun in eight days.
We had good visits with the boys. Matthew seems to be maturing before our eyes. He is very excited about the upcoming trip. Thomas is young for his age and doesn't seem to have a clue.
We got a call at 6:15pm suggesting the passports were ready and we could take the boys to Kyiv tomorrow. Normally that would be great, but there is no flight for us before Saturday so we'd rather spend a night here where we know and like the city, and have decent accomodations at a lower price. Also, I had a bunch of socks and undergarments soaking in the bathtub and we have no dryer.
Yes, we do like Khmelnytskyi and are even a little sad to leave though we are very excited to return home with the boys and get on with our life as a family. God has truly blessed us.
We had good visits with the boys. Matthew seems to be maturing before our eyes. He is very excited about the upcoming trip. Thomas is young for his age and doesn't seem to have a clue.
We got a call at 6:15pm suggesting the passports were ready and we could take the boys to Kyiv tomorrow. Normally that would be great, but there is no flight for us before Saturday so we'd rather spend a night here where we know and like the city, and have decent accomodations at a lower price. Also, I had a bunch of socks and undergarments soaking in the bathtub and we have no dryer.
Yes, we do like Khmelnytskyi and are even a little sad to leave though we are very excited to return home with the boys and get on with our life as a family. God has truly blessed us.
Sunday, February 10, 2008
The Countdown Continues
It's kind of a slow news day. Still cloudy, much colder - the mud was frozen and that is good.
During a snack break, Matthew said "Thank you" without being prompted, and "please" came rather easily. This is a big breakthrough. Thomas managed a series of shrieks. Also, when Thomas's group was on their way to get weighed, Thomas was the only one to fall down (head first!) the concrete stairs. He showed no signs of injury. That's our boy!
The outline of the coming week is to depart for Kyiv, with the boys, on Wednesday. It's about 350 km (kids, do the conversion for your parents). Thursday and Friday are for the embassy and the American Clinic. Assuming all goes well, we can fly home Saturday.
Enjoy the pictures below.
During a snack break, Matthew said "Thank you" without being prompted, and "please" came rather easily. This is a big breakthrough. Thomas managed a series of shrieks. Also, when Thomas's group was on their way to get weighed, Thomas was the only one to fall down (head first!) the concrete stairs. He showed no signs of injury. That's our boy!
The outline of the coming week is to depart for Kyiv, with the boys, on Wednesday. It's about 350 km (kids, do the conversion for your parents). Thursday and Friday are for the embassy and the American Clinic. Assuming all goes well, we can fly home Saturday.
Enjoy the pictures below.
The Boys on Sunday
Matthew in Papa's clothes. He's watched too many gangster movies already.
Matthew being Matthew.
Thomas believes Sundays are for liesure.
Matthew being Matthew.
Thomas believes Sundays are for liesure.
This is a church we visited on our walk Saturday. It is old and beautiful. Never having been in an Eastern Orthodox church, we were intrigued by the interior.
The lady and her city. There is no Talbot's here.
This is part of "The Bazaar". It really does go on forever.
Can you pick out the Amerikanski?
The lady and her city. There is no Talbot's here.
This is part of "The Bazaar". It really does go on forever.
Can you pick out the Amerikanski?
Saturday, February 9, 2008
3 Down, 1 To Go
That's right, three weeks down and, good Lord willing, only one to go.
Today we found "The Bazaar". We had seen a market place near the orphange but only explored its periphery. It is HUGE! It's not a market like anything we have. It is essentially shipping container stalls arranged in a maze with narrow aisles - claustrophobes be warned. One vendor advised there are 50,000 containers and we believe him. From an elevated vantage point it looks like a city and must extend most of a mile. They have everything. We saw thousands of fur coats, boots, hats, numerous fish smoked and some fresh enough to still be moving, housewares, you name it.
The kids were not well behaved so we aren't going spend much time on them. They did learn "door" as a word, and we added two Ukrainian words to our vocabulary. Here in Western Ukraine, Russian is understood, but Ukrainian is preferred and the two are not as similar as you might expect.
On another note, we often comment on the dirt. Outside, everywhere is filthy and gross. That said, Ukrainians are fanatical about cleaning. Once you step inside pretty much anywhere you will see people cleaning and you can eat off of most floors - just ask the boys because they do all the time.
Today we found "The Bazaar". We had seen a market place near the orphange but only explored its periphery. It is HUGE! It's not a market like anything we have. It is essentially shipping container stalls arranged in a maze with narrow aisles - claustrophobes be warned. One vendor advised there are 50,000 containers and we believe him. From an elevated vantage point it looks like a city and must extend most of a mile. They have everything. We saw thousands of fur coats, boots, hats, numerous fish smoked and some fresh enough to still be moving, housewares, you name it.
The kids were not well behaved so we aren't going spend much time on them. They did learn "door" as a word, and we added two Ukrainian words to our vocabulary. Here in Western Ukraine, Russian is understood, but Ukrainian is preferred and the two are not as similar as you might expect.
On another note, we often comment on the dirt. Outside, everywhere is filthy and gross. That said, Ukrainians are fanatical about cleaning. Once you step inside pretty much anywhere you will see people cleaning and you can eat off of most floors - just ask the boys because they do all the time.
Friday, February 8, 2008
Road Trip with Marina!!!!
We'd like to start by thanking everyone for their comments including a couple first timers today, as well as some misguided football fans.
The judgement was final end of day yesterday - we have adopted Matthew and Thomas! Now we begin the immigration work. Today, Marina arrived at 8:30 after an overnight train ride and she took us to Krasyliv (again) then back to the orphanage where we picked up the boys to take them for passport photos, then back to the orphanage, then the tax police, then the Regional Vital Records then the orphanage...
In summary, we took a death ride to Krasyliv, sat in a smelly government building for three hours, tried to use the bathroom (which is across the street) and no longer had to go, then took another death ride...We left the room at 8:15, and returned at 4:30. In between, we did not have one sip of a beverage, one bite of food or use the bathroom. We accidentally ate beef jerkey and ham at breakfast forgetting it's Friday in Lent - good thing as we needed the protein.
In Krasyliv there was a"tax". Apparently the budget for office supplies is low, so for our process, there was a "tax" to help move things along by ensuring they have paper, pens etc. We understand there are other similar "taxes" along the way. For those of you wondering, Krasyliv still has lots of clouds, communist architecture, stray dogs and dirt...good times.
The trip to get passport photos was interesting and the boys traveled well. We later had a nice visit, though Thomas bit Matthew pretty hard. When we returned Matthew to his group a few minutes early for misbehavior, he was crying. When the nurse in his group asked why he was crying, he promptly pulled up his shirt and lied that it was because Thomas bit him. The boy shows promise.
Now we wait for their passports, then next week travel to Kyiv to do immigration work at our embassy, a checkup for the boys at the American Clinic and then hopefully back to the USA next weekend.
Big day, big week...thanks for your support.
The judgement was final end of day yesterday - we have adopted Matthew and Thomas! Now we begin the immigration work. Today, Marina arrived at 8:30 after an overnight train ride and she took us to Krasyliv (again) then back to the orphanage where we picked up the boys to take them for passport photos, then back to the orphanage, then the tax police, then the Regional Vital Records then the orphanage...
In summary, we took a death ride to Krasyliv, sat in a smelly government building for three hours, tried to use the bathroom (which is across the street) and no longer had to go, then took another death ride...We left the room at 8:15, and returned at 4:30. In between, we did not have one sip of a beverage, one bite of food or use the bathroom. We accidentally ate beef jerkey and ham at breakfast forgetting it's Friday in Lent - good thing as we needed the protein.
In Krasyliv there was a"tax". Apparently the budget for office supplies is low, so for our process, there was a "tax" to help move things along by ensuring they have paper, pens etc. We understand there are other similar "taxes" along the way. For those of you wondering, Krasyliv still has lots of clouds, communist architecture, stray dogs and dirt...good times.
The trip to get passport photos was interesting and the boys traveled well. We later had a nice visit, though Thomas bit Matthew pretty hard. When we returned Matthew to his group a few minutes early for misbehavior, he was crying. When the nurse in his group asked why he was crying, he promptly pulled up his shirt and lied that it was because Thomas bit him. The boy shows promise.
Now we wait for their passports, then next week travel to Kyiv to do immigration work at our embassy, a checkup for the boys at the American Clinic and then hopefully back to the USA next weekend.
Big day, big week...thanks for your support.
Krasyliv and So Much More
To go to Krasyliv for the 4th time we picked up Marina here at the Khmelnytski Train Station. That's Rostick's Mercedes. He speaks some English so we like seeing him.
This building has the Dept. of Vital Records in Krasyliv. Apparently it doesn't have a bathroom so we crossed the street to a music school. After seeing that bathroom, the urge to go subsided.
Back in Khmelnytskyi - after a death ride with crazy Rostick - at yet another government office. This is actually fairly representative of the architecture and general ambiance. Saturday is when the cars get washed.
This building has the Dept. of Vital Records in Krasyliv. Apparently it doesn't have a bathroom so we crossed the street to a music school. After seeing that bathroom, the urge to go subsided.
Back in Khmelnytskyi - after a death ride with crazy Rostick - at yet another government office. This is actually fairly representative of the architecture and general ambiance. Saturday is when the cars get washed.
Taken 2/7
Taken on 2/7 - Matthew takes over Thomas' dance class. He would rather be dancing with Ivanka but had to make do with who was on hand. 
Don't be fooled - they were not getting along.
Thomas stole this bear and somehow ended up in the seat of honor. He has a future in politics.
Don't be fooled - they were not getting along.
Thomas stole this bear and somehow ended up in the seat of honor. He has a future in politics.
Thursday, February 7, 2008
Downtime
There was an inspection at the orphanage today, so we and the other couple in the process of adopting were requested not to visit this morning. Hmm...trying to maintain order in the place, I guess. That meant we had even more time on our hands today. We did some shopping for things the boys will need for the trip home, did some laundry in the bathtub, then had a good visit with them this afternoon. After hanging out with Matthew alone for a while, we went to collect Thomas and were told that he was at music class. Matthew showed us the way there, and the three of us watched the kids singing and playing games, as one of the teachers accompanied on the piano. Matthew was invited to join the action and we learned he's quite a dancer. All in all, a great visit.
Today actually marked the end of the 10-day waiting period. Tomorrow, we meet up with Marina bright and early and head off to Krasyliv (again!) to obtain the boys' birth certificates. We've been advised to bring snacks and water. You never know how long some of these road trips might take!
Today actually marked the end of the 10-day waiting period. Tomorrow, we meet up with Marina bright and early and head off to Krasyliv (again!) to obtain the boys' birth certificates. We've been advised to bring snacks and water. You never know how long some of these road trips might take!
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
Conversation Day
An interpreter was located from a nearby university to help us have a conversation with Matthew. He was quite shy and not a lot actually transpired; however, we there were a few tidbits. Most notably a) Matthew felt we gave Thomas too much attention, b) Matthew understands what's coming up and is looking forward to it, c) he likes us, d) Matthew says Thomas does not understand any of this, e) he asked for Thomas several times and it was touching. When we asked him if he had any questions about his new home, Matthew's answer was "I like cookies".
We realized we've been here too long when we ran into someone we knew. One of the ladies from Krasyliv (you remember Krasyliv) was at the orphanage, and we got to say "Dobray Dehn!" Then it was a lot of pointing and gesturing. It was the quiet younger lady at the left in the photo. We may see her again as we go to Krasyliv for the 4th time on Friday.
Below are a couple of photos from the archives.
We realized we've been here too long when we ran into someone we knew. One of the ladies from Krasyliv (you remember Krasyliv) was at the orphanage, and we got to say "Dobray Dehn!" Then it was a lot of pointing and gesturing. It was the quiet younger lady at the left in the photo. We may see her again as we go to Krasyliv for the 4th time on Friday.
Below are a couple of photos from the archives.
Slow Photo-Op Day
This is Marina, our primary facilitator doing what she does best - talking on the cell phone.
Here's the courthouse where we went over a week ago. Never judge a building by its outward appearance. Some shabby looking places are quite nice and exceptionally clean inside, while others - like the court - are the opposite.
Here's the courthouse where we went over a week ago. Never judge a building by its outward appearance. Some shabby looking places are quite nice and exceptionally clean inside, while others - like the court - are the opposite.
Tuesday, February 5, 2008
Experimentation
We spent the morning visit alone with Matthew, and it was good. When we asked about getting Thomas, we were able to make out the Ukrainian for "No Thomas". We spent the first hour of the afternoon visit with Matthew, then got Thomas. This was much better. It may be that Matthew was jealous of Thomas and we shall be sensitive to that. Was he perfect? No, but he wasn't any worse than any decent 5 year old boy. Today was much better.
Weather update...still cloudy,about freezing, damp and muddy. Tomorrow's forecast, more of the same! The sun was out for about 30 minutes this past weekend, but then things returned to normal. We were trying to think of what to buy the boys to remember their heritage by in later years and in unison we said "dirt". Enough said.
Tomorrow is Ash Wednesday. We understand there has been a meat dispensation for all tourists in Khmelnytskyi, and we are not questioning its validity. Our staples are one slice of ham in the morning, two pieces of beef jerkey each day, and chocolate. Chocolate is a whole food group here.
Weather update...still cloudy,about freezing, damp and muddy. Tomorrow's forecast, more of the same! The sun was out for about 30 minutes this past weekend, but then things returned to normal. We were trying to think of what to buy the boys to remember their heritage by in later years and in unison we said "dirt". Enough said.
Tomorrow is Ash Wednesday. We understand there has been a meat dispensation for all tourists in Khmelnytskyi, and we are not questioning its validity. Our staples are one slice of ham in the morning, two pieces of beef jerkey each day, and chocolate. Chocolate is a whole food group here.
Is America Ready?
On to America!! Yes, that means you too Thomas.
Shipboard entertainment
Thomas at the top of a slide - he wants to go head first but we won't let him...yet.
Shipboard entertainment
Thomas at the top of a slide - he wants to go head first but we won't let him...yet.
Monday, February 4, 2008
Brief Update
Sorry no pictures today - we'll have some tomorrow.
It is a very difficult time for all of us. Matthew's behavior is atrocious and because of the language barrier (no one at the orphanage can say more than "bye bye" in English) we can't figure out why. Interestingly, when someone from the orphanage approaches, or he hears the word "candy", he changes to perfect angel.
The thoughts are he is testing us, or he may be trying to beat us to the punch on rejection, or he is jealous of Thomas. In any event the next few days are going to be huge as the 10 day period runs at the end of Thurs.
We really could use your prayers as he is very difficult these days.
Right now it appears our return date may be during the weekend of the 16th/17th. Obviously that is subject to change.
It is a very difficult time for all of us. Matthew's behavior is atrocious and because of the language barrier (no one at the orphanage can say more than "bye bye" in English) we can't figure out why. Interestingly, when someone from the orphanage approaches, or he hears the word "candy", he changes to perfect angel.
The thoughts are he is testing us, or he may be trying to beat us to the punch on rejection, or he is jealous of Thomas. In any event the next few days are going to be huge as the 10 day period runs at the end of Thurs.
We really could use your prayers as he is very difficult these days.
Right now it appears our return date may be during the weekend of the 16th/17th. Obviously that is subject to change.
Anything Interesting Happen Lately?
Word on the street is that the New York Football Giants will be having a ticker tape parade after what ESPN.com called "arguably the best Super Bowl ever"
Yes, the Giants won the Super Bowl, but the 2007 Patriots are still the best team ever, they just got bitten by that "on any given Sunday" thing.
Had they not played each other that last week of the season there's no way the Giants win.
Yes, the Giants won the Super Bowl, but the 2007 Patriots are still the best team ever, they just got bitten by that "on any given Sunday" thing.
Had they not played each other that last week of the season there's no way the Giants win.
Sunday, February 3, 2008
Super Bowl Sunday
We love the Super Bowl, especially when the Giants are in it. A number of you have been to our house for the Big Game, and one of you who shall remain nameless (Jo*n) once said "Thank you for letting us be horrible in your home". Well, we may be fixin' to return the favor. The boys are very very active and loud. They've got a lot of spirit and energy and love to exercise both.
Marina will be here for a little bit tomorrow so we hope to have a rudimentary talk with Matthew since he has had a bit of turn about from "angel" to "fallen angel". That said, we love him and are confident he is a good boy.
Anyhow, it being much later here than at home, we can tell you that the Giants crushed the Patriots 62 to 7 in the Super Bowl so don't bother watching the game.
In actuality we're just thrilled Big Blue made it this far! GO GIANTS!!!!!
Marina will be here for a little bit tomorrow so we hope to have a rudimentary talk with Matthew since he has had a bit of turn about from "angel" to "fallen angel". That said, we love him and are confident he is a good boy.
Anyhow, it being much later here than at home, we can tell you that the Giants crushed the Patriots 62 to 7 in the Super Bowl so don't bother watching the game.
In actuality we're just thrilled Big Blue made it this far! GO GIANTS!!!!!
Saturday, February 2, 2008
Happy Groundhog Day
We haven't heard the news as to whether or not the groundhog saw his shadow. Our days here in Khelmyniskyi, however, are in many ways, a lot like the movie. We just keep living the same day over and over. One thing that does change is the many facets of the boys' personalities that we continue to discover. There is so much that we want to know and understand about them. The nurses and staff at the orphanage are amazing and, clearly, have a wealth of knowledge to share. Not being able to speak the same language, though, we do our best to figure things out by observation or trial and error. It's tough, but we're a strong team. Good thing, because this is a whole lot of togetherness!
On another note, the internet connection on the 12th floor is not working and will hopefully be fixed on Monday. What that means is we can't post pictures until then, just text.
On another note, the internet connection on the 12th floor is not working and will hopefully be fixed on Monday. What that means is we can't post pictures until then, just text.
Friday, February 1, 2008
Friday Night in Khmelnytskyi
The sun was out today and it was a nice change. There were some behavioral issues at the afternoon visit which shall require a fresh approach tomorrow.
Thank you to all for your words of encouragement and prayers. God seems to be smiling on this endeavor and we are in your debt.
Thank you to all for your words of encouragement and prayers. God seems to be smiling on this endeavor and we are in your debt.
Personality Check
Matthew has continued to exhibit mischievous behavior. He really wants to ride an electric scooter (not a Vespa) toy, but the battery is dead and we can't seem to communicate that to him. Meanwhile, he continues to rifle through pockets.
We discovered yesterday that Thomas is mesmerized by the piano (Moosica!!!) and could probably spend days at a time banging on the ivories and singing tunes in Ukrussian (combo of Ukrainian and Russian). We don't know what he says or sings, only that he has a lot to say and to sing about. More later.
We discovered yesterday that Thomas is mesmerized by the piano (Moosica!!!) and could probably spend days at a time banging on the ivories and singing tunes in Ukrussian (combo of Ukrainian and Russian). We don't know what he says or sings, only that he has a lot to say and to sing about. More later.
Action Shots
Kids from the orphanage out for their exercise. 
A group pauses for the pile driving exhibition.
Matthew posing with the pile driver in the background.
The artist and his muse. Thomas has a great love of the piano and singing. He actually pulled the chair up to sit down at the keyboard. The muse got her own chair.
A group pauses for the pile driving exhibition.Matthew posing with the pile driver in the background.
The artist and his muse. Thomas has a great love of the piano and singing. He actually pulled the chair up to sit down at the keyboard. The muse got her own chair.
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